(in)fertility, foster care and what happens "after".

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Welcome to A Place of Safety and Refuge.  I’ve thought about creating a blog for almost a year now, since we began our (second round of) M.A.P.P classes in January 2012.  I wasn’t sure I had enough to say that would be interesting to a reasonable amount of people (like, more than one), and I honestly didn’t know how much anonymity I would want to shield my family with.  So I decided to wait until I knew whether I wanted to go fully intimate for friends and family or completely candid yet without identifying details.  I also wanted to wait until something noteworthy happened.

Some noteworthy things have happened.

I am planning to use this blog as a place to vent, a safe arena to share my frustrations and joys in foster parenting, and to allow others to live vicariously through my (anonymous) journey, as I have lived through so many other candid, authentic and keepin’ it real blogs.

I just took a 15 minute pause to find the appropriate S.A.T. prep test word for keepin’ it real.

I failed.

I could now delve into our family history, how my husband and I came to be foster parents, the facts about our current foster son, blah blah blah.  I won’t.  I’ll save that for another post.  Don’t want to give all the milk away for free on the very first post do I?  Don’t think so.

Instead, I will tell you what I tell my 9 year old foster son at least once a day.  This is the magic saying. This will calm him down.  No matter what (so far).  I love this.  Are you ready for it?

‘You are safe.  You are loved.”

When my husband and I started our (second round) of M.A.P.P. classes in 2012, I began to pray for direction from God.  What are we doing this for all over again? What are our motives?  Is this what I am supposed to be doing at this time in my life?  And as I prayed daily, I began to hear, until I could drown it out no more, “Safety.  And refuge.  Your home is to be a place of safety and refuge.”

So whilst my little one waits and wonders what is to come of his life, worries about whether he will ever belong in a family he can claim as his, I simply pray that this place, our home, continues to be a place of safety and refuge.  And I tell him, “You are safe.  You are loved.”



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